…the butthole can be the great equalizer— everyone has one. It is the most democratic of our orifices. We can all experience what it feels like to be pitcher or catcher on the butthole diamond. And no one can accuse you of anus envy. – Tristan Taormino, of puckerup.com
I have previously alluded to the request for anal sex coming up about three weeks after any declaration of love or commitment. It also happens in the casual realm where I choose to explore. Some lasses enjoy it up the bum, some don’t. But it seems that at some point all men wish to explore their lady’s back passage.
Why?
Now – the standard answers are that it’s tighter, feels different or better, and it’s a bit naughty!
Actually the last man who enticed me into a lengthy phase of monogamy used to refer to the act as doing it “unconventionally”. I’ll be honest I found it quite a charming way of requesting it and gave this man my anal virginity as his birthday present. Admittedly I have since offered up my anal ‘virginity’ on a number of occasions. I have found that an anal-explorer is more likely to go slowly and gently if he believes he is ‘discovering’ virgin territory. I do hope none of my erstwhile suitors are reading this, as I expect they may be a little disappointed considering how pleased they were with themselves at the time, and the expense they went to with dinners, gifts, weekends away, etc. in order to pop my bum-cherry.
Nevertheless, I gave into their requests on my own terms and for my own reasons. I do not believe any of the nonsense about it being more intimate, or a better sensation for guys (unless they have a VSD … but then what else would you do with it?). Instead, I believe the male obsession with anal is a power trip. It is as simple as the amusement of looking down and seeing his cock in a place it shouldn’t be. It’s not some romantic bullshit of a stronger connection, it isn’t that erotic. (Seriously, his cock now has poo on it – what is sexy about that?) It is about power, it’s about breaking a taboo and taking something more from the lady in his bed.
Excuse my feminist rant for a second… but we have finally reclaimed our sexuality as a gender for the most part, exploring for ourselves sexual preferences on position, frequency, and circumstance. We’ve taken lessons in hand jobs and oral, we’ve shaved or waxed our cunts (sorry Sam!), and fulfilled their lesbian fantasies.
So ladies, I say take it up your ass if you want to, but don’t let him fob you off with reasons why. It’s about power – so ask for a fair exchange and strap one on first.
